If you’re reading this after experiencing a loss, I’m so sorry. This loss is devastating for your family, and life after loss can feel lonely. You aren’t alone.
If it’s helpful to read my story about miscarriage, please read it here. If what you need instead are support resources, you’ll find them below.
Support and resources for pregnancy and infant loss: anchor
After a loss, finding support is important. For some, support might come from family, friends, or a trusted mental health provider. For others, it may mean finding new resources and communities designed to help after loss. Please know that there is no right or wrong time to get support and no criteria you need to meet to be worthy of receiving support. The resources below are available to help at all stages of pregnancy and infant loss:
If you need immediate help:
Emergency Assistance (911)- available 24/7
The National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (1-833-TLC-MAMA or 1-833-852-6262)- a trained counselor is available 24/7
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988)- help available 24/7
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (1-800-662-HELP (4357) )- available 24/7 for referrals or information
For ongoing support:
Postpartum Support International has many resources available for grieving parents including support groups and peer mentoring. They also link to a directory of providers specializing in perinatal loss. You can reach them directly at (1-800-944-4773).
Compassionate Friends provides personalized comfort and support for the entire family through online and local groups and will also send grief resource materials to your home. You can reach them directly at (877-969-0010).
Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss provides resources and support for anyone impacted by a loss. They offer online support and information about support in your geographic area. You can reach them directly at (800-821-6819).
Check with hospitals in your area or your doctor’s office for information on local support groups.
Supporting friends and loved ones after pregnancy or infant lossanchor
If you are here because someone you love has experienced pregnancy or infant loss, here are some ways to help:
Practical support: The house tasks still go on. Grab what they need at the store, handle their order pickup, offer to do laundry, give other children in the family rides to activities or provide a few hours of babysitting. Helping with the day-to-day tasks can be so helpful.
Food: Providing nourishment takes one more item off their to-do list to allow them time and space to heal. Bring over dinner, drop off breakfast, bring frozen meals, or send a gift card.
Words: You may not know what to say, but sometimes words like “I’m here for you.” or “I’m so sorry.” acknowledge the loss and can be so comforting.
Presence: Sometimes the best support is being present. Ask your friend if they’d like to do something (grab coffee, take a walk, sit and watch TV). Sometimes the very offer of your presence makes their grief feel less lonely. And for some, a distraction or doing something that feels “normal” can be a blessing.
Know that your support can make a difference in your friend or loved one’s healing. Grief is an ever-evolving process and simply being present and giving them space to grieve is one of the best ways to help them feel less lonely and more supported.
